Wednesday, June 11, 2014

It's Not That I Don't Care...

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You can spend your whole life trying to help someone. You can give advice, pay money, sacrifice, but sometimes it feels like you are getting no where. You get yelled at because they want you to leave them alone to make their own mistakes. Then when you do, you get yelled at because you were supposed to keep the mistake from happening. You feel caught. You feel strongly for this person because they are family.  You feel bad that their choices put them in bad predicaments. But, what can you do? They made the decisions they wanted and damn the consequences. Until the consequences were more than they could handle. 

While you feel miserable about the situation they are now in, they decide to up the stakes more. Now they say you don't care about them because you didn't stop the situations from happening. But, perhaps the truth is just too much for them. Perhaps they just can't see the truth. The truth of the matter is I DO CARE. I do care, that's why I tried to give you advice. I do care, that's why I tried to help you. It's not that I don't care; it's that you didn't care enough to help yourself too.

Financially, you are not my responsibility. I am not required by any law to care for you physically. It is not my role to keep your job for you. However, you are a grown adult. It is your responsibility to take care of yourself financially and physically. It is your responsibility to keep your job. If you can't even attempt to take care of yourself, why expect me to do it?

The hardest thing to do is to walk away. The attitude they throw at you is toxic. It brings you down. But, you can't handle the attitude, the blame, the accusations of everything being your fault. You care but at the same time you have to give up. You can't support them. You can't suffer and sacrifice anymore. 

I will continue to care. But from a distance. You are on your own.

1 comment:

Shell said...

Sometimes you have to step away. There's only so much you can do to try to help someone.